Want Some Judgement?

Everyone knows the marriage rate is decreasing (at least I think we all know that). According to the Pew Research Center, only 51% of people over the age of 18 are married in the United States.

Maggie Arden’s post is about how a PetCo employee thought she was married when the name on her P.A.L.S. card did not match the one on her license. He thought she got married but she did not, and henceforth a conversation regarding cohabitation, marriage, and divorce ensued. Maggie’s new PetCo friend (who himself is divorced) likes the idea of marriage but fails to see that not everyone wants to get married (or should).

Then there is the unpleasant topic of marriage for the conservatives – gay couples. Since most gay people are unable to get married in the United States, that nuptial number is potentially continually lowered by that demographic. I could go into a whole rant about how gay people are people too, and if most straight people are unhappy in their marriage, why not allow gay people to be dissatisfied as well? Well, conservatives? Don’t you want the gay people you hate to be miserable in marriage as well?

Returning to the straight population – so perhaps among a plethora of divorces, people see marriage as outdated, and just not appealing. I think people still like the idea of a quality lifelong partnership with a good person, but do not feel the need to sign a piece of paper, change their names, and go through such a formal process when the other option is simple and non-binding – live together.

Marriage isn’t for everyone, and I certainly don’t think we should be herding people down the aisle if couples just aren’t interested. Would we prefer to see more divorces just so the percentage of married people increase? I don’t think so.

Live, and let live, people. If you want to get married, fine. If not, that’s fine too. When you boil it all down, who cares?  I do not care. If your next door neighbor is legally married (if they are allowed to do so) or living together without some bullshit paper saying they’re together, what does it matter?

The link to Maggie Arden’s post is here.